Yesterday’s yoga lesson was about the space between. The space between thoughts, between breaths. The massage I got after class seemed to be about the space between my cranium and my spine, between my vertebrae. I really need to cultivate the space between. That that space, that expansiveness, is where our true essence resides. The space between our matter is our Spirit, and that is who we truly are — beautiful, free, ever-expanding Spirits…in a material world. The challenge is to engage and live in the Spirit, The Space Between, and to float through the chaos and matter of reality. I know for myself that I am caught by the trappings of reality – clothing, possessions, my physical body, money…all of it. It occurs to me that fear is actually a product of our material life, not our spiritual life. What do we fear? I think usually it’s LOSS — of love, of family, of money, of power, of freedom, of life, of STUFF. But if the self is truly identified as the Spirit, the matter through which we come to define ourselves becomes simply STUFF. (This is particularly apt as I am embarking on a major closet purge at home. I have a lot of stuff, and it is cluttering up both my environment and my mind.) Some of it is beloved stuff that we attach to powerful memories, but as they say, “You can’t take it with you.” When we die, all we take with us is our Spirit, our Space Between.
Imagine the Space Between in other areas of your life. The Space Between items on your to-do list – that’s where you live. The Space Between your ideal and your reality – that’s where you grow. The Space Between two people – that’s where you come together. When we communicate with each other, the core of what we need to say, the truth, comes from the space between. When we actively listen, we learn to hear the space between the words; we give the other person a chance to express what comes up in the space between their thoughts, between their breaths, between their words. In that space between thoughts is infinite wonder and knowing and possibility. In that space is the truth you never knew about yourself. It’s forgiveness, and acceptance, and growth, and change, and release. It’s peace.
Make regular dates with yourself to explore the space between your thoughts, the space between your breath. It can be challenging in this material world of go-go-go/more-more-more!, but like anything worth doing, it takes practice. Try it in a quiet place or on the A Train at rush hour or at 2am with your teething toddler. Turn your gaze inward and notice what you find in that space. You will likely find the room you need to grow, to get to know who it is you are meant to be, who it is you already are. You will find compassion. You will meet your Spirit — the spirit who is connected to your ancestors, to the network of All Souls, to the Interspirit Highway (I just made that up, but I like it. It came to me in The Space Between…). You will find your infinite potential, your place in this spiritual world. You will lose your fear of failure and loss, because you will have found, and learned to inhabit, your own marvelous light.